Train Your Mind to Move On After a Breakup

November 29, 2021

Train Your Mind

Moving on from a breakup is no easy feat.


It’s a delicate balancing act that can easily spiral into an unhealthy territory quickly if no conscious steps are taken to move forward. So, how do you better equip your mind in order to move on from a broken heart?


The mind is a powerful thing, especially in times of great distress and overwhelming emotion. Navigate through breakups with these simple tips:


  • Keep yourself busy.
    • When you’re alone after a breakup, you can get easily overwhelmed with your thoughts and emotions with no way of letting them out. Trying to move on in isolation can quickly turn unhealthy, so it’s a good idea to put yourself back out into the world and interact with other people as part of the process. Make plans, engage in activities that you find fun and fulfilling, and meet up with people who will listen and empathize with what you’re going through. Moving on isn’t always a battle won alone.[1][2][3][4] 
  • Practice cognitive reappraisal.
    • Recent studies have shown that reframing memories of your former partner can help in the moving-on process. Remembering the negative or positive traits of your partner and looking at them in a new light can help put things into perspective in your quest to move forward.[1][2][3][4] 
  • Allow yourself to grieve.
    • Don’t pressure yourself to immediately move on. Instead, allow yourself to face the emotions you’re feeling during this difficult time. There is no time limit to grieving the loss of your partner and your relationship, but you can control how much you can grieve each day. Setting hard limits on grieving can help reduce the risk of spiraling down into deep regret and negative thoughts, especially when you’re alone.[1][2][3][4] 


In the end, it’s always good to remember that your personal health should never be neglected. So, it’s best to take care of yourself first and foremost through this painful but necessary journey. What matters is not just moving on, but also moving forward.